Safety of personal development
Author: Yuri Smirnov . Category: generation of improvements . Posted: 21.02.2010, 18:34.
Three posts ago we talked on the templates of the second kind , which "prohibit" we change, develop their creative potential. How to deal with this? Patterns of the Russian language prompted: "Crack!" Or maybe: "Fooling?"
Just to emphasize: if you want to develop the ability to generate ideas, when you need them - do not need a break. At least in my blog, we do that we will not.
The first is simply dangerous. " Any ban template - is part of your personality at the moment. And his sudden removal could lead to unpredictable consequences. It may leave a void that you will not be able to fill. Give rise to frustration in the very idea of personal growth. Destroy relationships with family, friends and colleagues. And even "tear down the roof" - and probably is. Therefore, if you feel that you have lost in my life too much time and want in a matter of weeks, months to get rid of hindering your mental patterns, and patterns of behavior - suggest working on this only under the guidance of an experienced and responsible psychologist, psychotherapist.
Secondly, to "tame" inspiration - no need to alter their identity, changing lifestyles, "hack" and "eliminate" stereotypes. All that is required - to develop the skill to "forget" about their stereotypes, "exposes" on them. Of course, with time under the influence of regular insights and experiences of new victories, many prohibit templates lose power, the "solution" as if by themselves. But the same thing always happens in the process of life itself - if a person is sufficiently attentive to the surroundings and inner peace. If he reads the clever books, talking to smart people, apply their advice into practice and make sure their own experience, that his fears were exaggerated.
The techniques that I share with you in this blog, do not change your identity, not "hacked" and not "expand" your mind - but it may help you change yourself "in the process of life itself." They are as safe as, for example, a remarkable habit of speaking every morning, looking in the mirror: "I love you" - and repeat the same thing, looking out the window.
But now I urge you not to trust me on word - as anyone who offers you assistance in personal development. Once you start to take practical steps, you will never return to the starting point: even if you do not get - at this point back the other, disappointed man. And you can not get those changes, which sought. Therefore, opening a new book, article or post, going to a seminar or training for personal growth (including - for the development of creative thinking), do not forget about the simple rules:
Safety of personal development
1. Any method of personal development apply only if understood his description of the first to the last letter. Misunderstanding occurs either from the fact that you lack of knowledge (which can lead to errors when using the method), or from intentional sciolism, for which the author tries to hide the lack of meaning.
2. The meaning of any sound system of personal development - to teach you to consciously manage their own resources. But it happens that the "teachers" themselves can not explain the mechanism of their manipulation - and promise a breakthrough, which magically takes you to a new level of awareness. Well, then realizes that you do not do personal development, and participate in a psychological experiment with unpredictable consequences.
3. If you are interested in. method of personal development based on the performance of long instructions, and complicated procedures, consider: maybe this method simply incomplete? Perhaps the author is prepared beforehand to explain your failure that you are not very high quality job of paragraph 223.1.11? Really, any good-quality system of personal growth can be contained on one or two pages so that they were sufficient to correct the practical application without further explanation. And the practical essence of the Great systems in general can be compressed to one sentence. "Love the Lord your God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul and with all thy mind; This is the first and greatest commandment second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself".
4. Very few people can find everything they need for growth in one system. So if your "teacher" reviles all its competitors and forbids you to use their know-- take out of his system all that is good for you - and quickly go.
5. The result of course depends more on the student than the teacher. If you have any criteria for what result you pay - you get this result even from the average trainer. If such criteria do not - even meeting with the overseas gurus will not leave you anything but his autograph.
PS The text of the rules will be periodically updated. I would be grateful for your tips.
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I venture, compress:
"Do no harm - and love!
God and all his creations !!!!!!!»
Strive for excellence -
accumulate useful
and reject harmful.